A woman comes to Maharaj ji who is worried about her son. Maharaj tells her,
Don’t think that people become human when they are born. They become human when they read scripture, and then become loving and willing to serve. All the prophets have said that to deal with your bad karma, do spiritual practice and good work, and thus change it.
Keep a good environment in your home, for it has a great effect on your children. Control your anger. Several things are crucial: giving time to your children, the effect of the parents’ characters, the effect of hereditary bloodlines, and karma.
Even a six-month-old child notices your anger. The first thing is how you deal with each other, how you sit at the table. A child’s consciousness catches everything. If a child hears bad things from his parents, he will be uncontrolled. First sit and think about this: At all periods, from the womb onwards, these things have a great effect.
In Punjab, we are a bit worried because previously there were no love marriages. [Now that is changing] and will surely affect children; control is lost. Children imitate their parents even in their actions. Whatever kind of child you want, first be that way yourself. Shaikh Farid listened to the Holy Qur’an even when he was in his mother’s womb.
If the parents take drugs, those go right into their unborn children’s genes. Scientists who have examined one-day-old children find intoxicants in their bodies from their mothers. One child is always corrupt; another sits nicely. Even the actions and nature of the parents enter their blood.
Children catch all the actions of their parents. If we want our child to be a jewel, why are we angry in front of him? These things will repeat themselves in him in 7 or 8 years. Children are not at fault if they live in a house with angry dramas. If all are to become dharmic, improve your character and then create children. Being a parent is a great commitment.